Top Five Most Annoying Things People Have Said to Me (Since I Got Pregnant)

I used to be one of those people who never really knew what to say around pregnant women.  I was always afraid of saying the wrong thing or asking something too personal and coming off as ignorant and careless, rather than what I really was- considerate and interested.  I would read the articles titled, “What To Never Say to a Pregnant Woman” and agree with most of the complaints women had, but some of the things women took issue with I thought were completely reasonable and innocent.

I thought that, until I switched sides.  Now, some of the “innocent” things people say to me have a way of making me want to rip my hair out, either out of stress or frustration.

Here is my list of Top Five Most Annoying Things People Have Said to Me (since I got pregnant).

1.) “Get your sleep now.”

I know I need to get lots of sleep, and believe me, if it were that easy, I would be.  But the combination of my constant racing thoughts and over exerted bladder makes that pretty impossible.  And it doesn’t ease my mind to be told that I need to somehow store up my sleep now because it’s never going to happen once the kid is born.

2.) “Oh, you think THAT’S bad, just wait…”

This comes from a lot of people with kids, and I know they mean well by trying to prepare me for what’s coming, the truth simply is I don’t want to hear it.  I’m on the biggest, most terrifying roller coaster of my life and hearing people describe how rickety the track is and what major dips are coming doesn’t help.

3.) “You need to eat.”

Thankfully I am in my second trimester now, so eating is no longer a problem.  However, back when I was still mired in nausea and sickness during my first trimester, food was the last thing I wanted and some people seemed desperate to get me to eat, as if I was purposely starving the baby and myself.  As if it wasn’t enough to have nausea gnawing at my stomach, I had guilt too.

4.) “You’re lucky.”

I know this was meant to be comforting, but whenever I was told about someone who had gone through a really rough pregnancy, it just made me feel bad about my own problems, as if I had no right to complain.  But the one universal truth I’ve learned among all pregnant women is this- no two pregnancies are exactly alike so no one should compare themselves to any one else. 

5.) “You really shouldn’t…”

Yes, I am still running.  Yes, I am indulging in my sweet (and salty) tooth a lot.  Yes, I am stressing about being a mother and I am vocalizing it.  All of these are things I shouldn’t do, or at least not often.  But I have been very upfront with my doctors about my activities, diet, and mental state and so long as I don’t overdue anything, I have the go-ahead.  Consider all outside worries and fears assuaged.

Ok you former or current preggos- what sort of things did people say to you that drove you bat s*** crazy?